…from Lindy West at Jezebel. There are a lot of dudes I know who ought to read this.
Category: boys 2 men and shit
It’s Getting Better
This would be awesome, if it does happen. I have to believe there are enough people who’d support this dude that the inevitable atavistic knuckle-draggers would be drowned out.
Also, is it weird and selfish that I hope the player’s a Giant? Because I think that would be awesome!
Also: The obvious comparison is Rob Halford of Judas Priest.
Money Where Your Mouth Is
I thought this was an excellent continuation of last week’s theme. Shannon Salisbury is an educator from Canada who’s creating downloadable resources for teachers and parents to help teach consent culture. I’m sending some money, and you should too. This is awesome!
Discovered via MGK.
Doug Barry writes a great piece about our culture’s worship of sports heroes using the real-life inspiration for The Natural as his starting point. He doesn’t make the obvious next step of connecting that hero worship to the kinds of attitudes that enable a thing like Steubenville, though. And he’s so close! I kept waiting for that leap, but he never took it.
The way we whitewash the actions of these dues is both surprising and saddening. Athletes aren’t, and shouldn’t be, heroes. They’re good at playing a game and that’s fun to watch. It’s fun to root for your team. But let’s not hold up skill at a particular task as a referendum on a person’s character.
Henry Rollins has some musings about the Steubenville verdict.
It’s a lot of musing and thinking-out-loud, and Rollins hits on a lot of interesting points while he works through his reactions to the case. There’s no one real answer to a lot of the questions he finds himself asking because, as he puts it, there’s failure on so many levels here it’s hard to know where to start. From my own perspective as an educator, though, I think there’s one really, really important lesson we can impart to kids at just about all levels, and it’s this:
YES MEANS YES.
I know, I know; no points for originality. Fuck originality. I was talking to some dude about the verdict yesterday and the kid started going on about how you can just never be sure when someone’s consenting when they’re intoxicated. I thought he was going to take it somewhere profound, but instead he wound up shrugging it all off by suggesting that, well, you just never know, so sometimes people are gonna get raped. He phrased it a little differently–“You just never know.” “It’s hard.” Dude, it ain’t that fuckin’ hard. Did she say yes? Awesome! Go for it! Did she say no? Hands the fuck off. Did she say maybe? Well, that’s not yes, no hands the fuck off. Did she hint yes? Be sure, and make sure it’s an unequivocal yes, or you’re an unequivocal shitbag.
If kids can internalize that, you’d reduce the chances of dudes making the terrible decision to rape another human being, and you’d reduce the shitshow of people making excusing for rapists.